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Eating Disorders in Mid-Life

March 14,2017 Posted by Kim Gerads, LCSW
Eating disorders are on the rise for women in their 40s and 50s. While eating disorders have been known to afflict the teenage, college student and young adult population, women in midlife are increasingly affected. Treatment centers are reporting higher admission rates of women in midlife. Eating disorders are surpassing the boundaries of age and gender, with men in midlife also developing problems in extreme eating behavior, eating attitudes and preoccupation with body image. Many of those now struggling midlife also struggled in their teens, making them at higher risk for relapse around middle age. For others, body image and difficulty regulating food intake has been a lifelong challenge,...
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Suffering, Acceptance, and Change

March 01,2014 Posted by Albert Mellinkoff, PsyD
Suffering, Acceptance, and Change Suffering, of one sort or another, often brings people into therapy. It may be the ache of an unrequited love, the gnawing sense of dissatisfaction with a job, or the stabbing pain of a loved one’s death. It may be the relentless misery of chronic depression, the oppressiveness of an addiction, or the crippling panic that grips some people when they are obligated to speak in front of a roomful of strangers. The first precept of Buddhist thought is that “life is suffering,” and the Buddha cited attachment and desire as the sources of our pain. “I want a job whose perks include wealth and fame, not the daily grind I’m in now,” or “I can’t...
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Grief as a Normal and Healthy Process

January 16,2014 Posted by Dan Cunningham, PsyD
Western culture impresses upon many of us the need to exert personal control over the process of dying and grief in general, that is to say we must do everything we can to prevent the inevitable. In many cases, this futile individual effort continues even after a loved one has died. Meanwhile surviving family members and the structure that endures remain relatively unexamined or underappreciated. In the United States, the progression toward death most often occurs in hospitals where family members, doctors, nurses, social workers and/or other hospital staff become closely involved with family members in their charge of caring for their patient. Grief exposes us to deep attachments and remind...
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Avoiding Exercise Addiction: The Key is Awareness and Balance

January 16,2014 Posted by Milagros Saxon, PhD - CEO
Okay, the holidays are over and it is the beginning of a New Year and you want to work on the new you. You have created an idea of how you want to move forward with your exercise plan and have bought a membership to your local gym or fitness studio. What could possibly go wrong? Well, a lot could go wrong if you are not aware of the imbalances in your life. Many people start off by having the goal of attaining a certain fitness milestone and make the commitment to themselves that they will work hard at keeping that resolution. The imbalance occurs when the commitment to exercise crosses the line from the healthy use of exercise to dependence, thus leading to addictive behavior. Some peopl...
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Dealing with Difficult People

September 01,2013 Posted by John Shepard, EdD
Most people are regularly stressed and frustrated by the behaviors of co-workers, bosses, internal and external customers. This article will help you understand and effectively cope with the “difficult people” you encounter. What is a “difficult person”? The dictionary defines “difficult people” as “causing hardship”, “needing skill and effort to handle”, and “not easy to be around”. Moreover, difficult people are considered a true source of stress in one’s life. You can begin your strategizing with the simplest method of reducing the overall stress associated with “difficult person”. The answer lies with redefining and narrowing what we cons...
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The Value of Comprehensive Career Counseling

June 27,2013 Posted by John Shepard, EdD
The utilization of a comprehensive approach to career development is essential to the exploration and validation of who you are and can be as a person. The direction and form your career takes is important. Half of an adult’s working life involves work activity. Additionally, it is estimated that 50% of a person’s happiness and sense of fulfillment can be attributed to satisfaction gained through work experiences. Unfortunately, recent surveys have found that fewer than half of Americans are satisfied with their employment. This is particularly true for the younger and/or less educated portion of the workforce. Why such dissatisfaction? There are literally thousands of...
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Four Questions to Healing

June 24,2013 Posted by ,
When I was in grad school I took a particular interest in cross-cultural healing.  What I found was that many ancient and tribal cultures approached psychological issues with great concern for the creative, younger part of the individual. If someone was unhappy, anxious, depressed or just feeling stuck in life, they would visit the village elders. By way of assessment, the elders would first ask the following 4 questions: 1. When did you stop singing? 2. When did you stop dancing? 3. When did you lose interest in stories, particularly your own? 4. When did you become uncomfortable with silence? I love these questions because they speak to something which brings many peop...
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Guilt and Shame: How are they different?

June 16,2013 Posted by Albert Mellinkoff, PsyD
Every one of us - at least those of us who are not psychopaths - has experienced guilt and shame at some point in our lives. Many people experience them on a daily basis. Sometimes we think of guilt and shame as being one and the same, but they’re really not. They serve two very different purposes. Guilt can actually be useful and constructive, guiding our behavior and ensuring that society does not devolve into chaos; but shame can be quite destructive, and can manifest as countless forms of psychological distress. Guilt and shame may feel physiologically similar, but the cognitions we associate with them are qualitatively different. When we feel guilty, we are thinking,"...
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Differentiation

June 09,2013 Posted by Albert Mellinkoff, PsyD
One of the biggest myths perpetuated by classic children’s stories - and by Hollywood - is that, once they are married, couples live “happily ever after.” The reality, as we’ve all heard by now, is that nearly half of marriages in the United States end in divorce. Many obstacles factor into that dispiriting statistic, but one of the greatest challenges to a lasting relationship is an expectation that many people bring - consciously or otherwise - into a marriage: “Now that I’ve found my soulmate, we will ride off into the sunset together and always be happy. My spouse and I will value and desire the same things. We will have sex as often (or not) a...
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